Finding your inner strengths

Have you ever been asked what your strengths are and either cringed or felt like you are making it up because you have no idea?

If you’ve ever felt like this, you aren’t the only one. I’ve been there too.

You have many strengths, and they make you unique and can be your super powers. (so can your weaknesses, but that’s for another day).

I bet you have more inner strengths than you even realize. Sometimes it takes another person to see them and bring them out.

But let’s learn to do this for ourselves because our lives need those strengths if we are to create the life of our dreams.

This is a great journal exercise if you keep one.

Questions that reveal your strengths

The first four questions focus on your roles in life. These can reveal quite a few of your strengths.

How are you as a friend?

Think of a good friend you have and list the ways that you show your friendship. Think of the both the small and big things you do for them.

How are you as an employee/business owner?

Do you have any special talents or abilities that make you good at what you do? And what do you bring to the relationships with your bosses, employees or customers?

How are you as a parent or as a son or daughter?

What do you bring to your family relationships?

How are you as a romantic partner?

Consider all the things you do to show you care and make your partner feel loved by you. What do these things reveal about you?

Be imaginative and include everything. Don’t leave anything out or toss anything aside. It’s all important and says a great deal about you.

The next set of questions are based on your inner self.

What are your skills?

Recognizing what you are good at is an important source of inner strength. If you are good at painting or writing for example, each of these also uses creativity, resourcefulness, dedication, and courage, just for starters.

No skill is too small to consider.

What are you values?

Your values are your strengths. Each of them holds up your character, gives you a foundation to stand on and makes you unique. What are they for you?

What are your beliefs?

These should be your positive beliefs, not any dis-empowering beliefs you have.

  • Do you believe in being committed?
  • Do you believe there is always a way?
  • Do you believe in helping others?

You can see that each of these beliefs will reveal inner strengths like loyalty, persistence, and kindness.

What are your ways of being?

This question is meant to bring out the different aspects of your personality.

You might have an achiever in you or an organizer or a rebel in you. Another way to think about this is to go back to your roles and think how you are in each of them, that is how you feel and what you express.

What have your successes been?

You have many of them, if you are completely honest. Think of a few successes in different areas of your life and consider what strengths you have had to use to get them.

Now your list should be long, and maybe there have been a few discoveries too.

Statements that reveal your strengths

Another way to reveal strengths is with these statement starters.

I am strong because _____

Think of as many things as you can This is the perfect time for a brainstorm.

I am strong when I ______

Actions do speak louder than words, so how do your actions show your strengths?

In relationships one of my strengths is ______

Our relationships can really bring out a strength.

How is your list now?

If it is short then go through the questions again and be completely honest with yourself. If you can’t be honest with yourself, who can you be honest with?

The next question to consider is how you can greater utilize those strengths to help you go after what you want in life.

In the areas you struggle with, is there a way bringing some of your strengths in could help you find new solutions?


Your strengths anchor your self-confidence.

It’s important to be aware of your strengths because then you can consciously choose to engage them when you face new challenges. It can be very reassuring to know they are there for you to lean on.