Alone Time

You’re doing what? You’re going by yourself?

Yea, these are the reactions I get when I tell people that I am going out of town by myself for a few days. Even my mom said, in not so many words, I don’t see why you want to be alone.

I didn’t get these reactions when I worked as a field interviewer

I would travel out of town by myself for two weeks at the time. I did this every quarter for 3 years and no one thought that it was odd. I guess that it was perfectly acceptable to be alone since it was for work.

Sometimes I do want to be alone

I want to slow down and relax. I want to not have any responsibilities for anyone else but myself. Maybe that sounds selfish. My old self would have called it selfish, but as I get older I am learning that I can’t take care of everyone and everything. And, I’m learning that if I don’t take care of myself first, then I have nothing left to give to anyone else.

My children are grown and no longer live at home. My husband knows how to fend for himself and supports me taking a few days to relax and focus on myself. (I did make sure he had clean underwear before I left.)

I focus on mind, body, and spirit

I focus on taking care of myself. I think of it as a personal retreat. I go to the beach and usually do some kind of detox diet for my body, and I get plenty of exercise by walking or running on the beach. I read, pray, and meditate for my mind and spirit.

Panama City Beach, FL

 On my latest trip, I went to float therapy which can incorporate all three. In fact, on these trips, I do things that incorporate all three. Simply taking a walk on the beach can fuse together mind, body, and spirit.

I don’t have a schedule

No schedule needed when you’re only responsible for yourself. You wake up when your body is done sleeping and you eat when your body is hungry.

I make it a priority twice a year

This is something that I decided to do for myself a few years ago. I was working as a program director in a prison and needed a break. I enjoyed it so much that I decided to make it a priority twice a year in March and October.

The last personal retreat I did was in March 2018 so this trip was long overdue. My October 2018 trip got canceled due to Hurricane Michael. No time to get away when you and your community are overcoming a category 5 hurricane! Then in March 2019, it just didn’t seem important, but after a year and a half, I was ready to have some alone time.

Call it strange; call it selfish

I’m still going to go out of town by myself even if people think it’s odd.

I’m learning to not let other people’s lack of understanding dictate my life.